How do you define fun?

I’ve been thinking that I want to be a more fun person, such that people would actually use the word fun to describe me. Sounds great, but this thought brings up other painful thoughts such as I’m not currently fun and the change is needed. Another thing that always comes up for me is the big “How?”.

“What the devil is the point of surviving, going on living, when it’s a drag? But you see, that’s what people do.” — Alan Watts

A few years ago I found it very interesting to ask people “How do you define fun?”. I always got different answers such as “something I enjoy” or “something I would want to do over and over” or even the specific “parties!”. It wasn’t until I met Steve that I got an answer that felt right and caused me to stop asking. He said,

“Fun is an attitude”

Isn’t an attitude kind of like a mood? Can you stay in one mood all the time? Or just put on the face when around people? That sounds contrived.

What is fun to one person can be really annoying to another. But then again, it’s an attitude. The person with the attitude that squelches fun can influence the person with the attitude that everything is fun. They might think it’s more fun to be accepted than to have their chosen outlook on life.

I know I can change my attitude, but I often forget to. I need to make it a habit. Now it sounds like work. Maybe it’s just a matter of remembering to look for opportunities. After all, I don’t want to try to be something I’m not.


  • I would not want you to be any other way than who you are.

    What makes you happy is fun and what is fun makes you happy. Simple.

    Lately I have been missing something. I feel that my joy has left me. May be we could get together and have/make some fun together. Or just decide to be happy!

  • Joy,

    One good rule of thumb from an old lady is to understand what some feel is “fun” today may not necessarly be what they feel is fun tomorrow.

    I am not sure, but I do not think there is a rule book on “What Fun Is” for everyone. It is generic and broad spectriumed and some where at some time you surely will have what “you ” feel is fun. Maybe not but your will be Joy.

    Be your self, let “fun”find you or” peace or joy” or ” love.”
    If you are not yourself then everthing else is false anyway.

  • Gosh guys, I am who I am and I doubt I can really change it. But I can change moods or attitudes. I can look at situations with a eye out for fun or choose to be serious all the time.
    We all can.
    I just forget to choose the fun side. Maybe what is fun to me isn’t often fun to anyone else…or vice versa. It helps if people with similar attitudes hang out together.

  • Although i dont know you, isn’t it the best if you just be yourself.. Trying not to be yourself i quite hypocritical i think. And it will sure make u less FUN. Trying to be FUN is like asking a lion to be a clown. Even lions has their FUN!! You don’t need to be a clown to make everyone have fun. most important is yourself.

  • This is a perfect example of what happens to me a lot. People think I’m saying something that I’m not; or maybe I should say I don’t communicate adequately to convey my message.

    I’m not trying to be anyone other than myself. I can’t be.
    But who I am can be perceived as more fun and I can actually find more opportunities to be more fun more often if I just apply myself to it.

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